tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1165773290907101242.post2825855592022547594..comments2024-01-24T11:41:28.022+00:00Comments on A Cuban In London: Thoughts in ProgressA Cuban In Londonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16423293358605007539noreply@blogger.comBlogger26125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1165773290907101242.post-44299543315775289782017-04-26T17:45:01.229+01:002017-04-26T17:45:01.229+01:00When I became a parent myself, I was blown away by...When I became a parent myself, I was blown away by the realization of how much my own parents loved me, and over the years of raising my children, more than anything else, I have come away with the knowledge that even when their actions failed me, failed who i knew myself to be, their intention was sterling. they did their best. i am one of the lucky ones. and now i do my best, knowing that i may guard against the things that stung me in my own upbringing, but i will be utterly blind to how i have, or will, fail my own children, because they are not me. i hope, one day, they will understand the depth of my good intention toward them. thank you for this thoughtful post. 37paddingtonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12400464105403622384noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1165773290907101242.post-51263225122200760892017-04-14T15:12:39.045+01:002017-04-14T15:12:39.045+01:00Te admiro por como criaste a tu hijo en una nueva ...Te admiro por como criaste a tu hijo en una nueva cultura para ti.Boris Estebitanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08961516002917595069noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1165773290907101242.post-77696272011983579682017-04-08T00:34:34.111+01:002017-04-08T00:34:34.111+01:00I think we would all be a lot happier if we were t...I think we would all be a lot happier if we were to give parents a break. I think the majority of us do the best we can with the tools we have. Maybe some are better than others at the parenting gig, but I think most try their very best. We need to realize that all children are different and what may work for one won't work for the other. I remember when my son was younger he was pretty strong willed. Some parents said I should spank him, but that really had little to no effect on him. He worked better with time-outs or finding his currency like less screen time. Anyway, I have stopped listening to the voices and listen to what my gut tells me now.likeschocolatehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04361497391780056620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1165773290907101242.post-61454163884596489602017-04-04T10:20:55.533+01:002017-04-04T10:20:55.533+01:00Parents to teens, or children is challenging and t...Parents to teens, or children is challenging and this is the way of life. Nasreenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10903012810404786521noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1165773290907101242.post-34810421789802342642017-04-01T06:26:51.175+01:002017-04-01T06:26:51.175+01:00Agreed - parenting is very challenging but oh so w...Agreed - parenting is very challenging but oh so worth it!Lady Fihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16181866510595193667noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1165773290907101242.post-4778877586748677832017-03-31T04:39:07.389+01:002017-03-31T04:39:07.389+01:00I wish I could say I relate, but only that I respe...I wish I could say I relate, but only that I respect you for your efforts. Parenting is something I don't believe I will ever experience and I simply am unable to empathize with the challenge. All in all, I think you've got your head on right, though.H.R. Bennetthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01462784064936801201noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1165773290907101242.post-87571039137592562322017-03-30T21:30:25.112+01:002017-03-30T21:30:25.112+01:00that´s life :)that´s life :)NatureFootstephttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01340635075481959029noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1165773290907101242.post-28749702165085744312017-03-28T03:57:52.205+01:002017-03-28T03:57:52.205+01:00Parenting, as you say, is a great challenge and a ...Parenting, as you say, is a great challenge and a lot of work, marbled with sacrifices, but it's well worth the effort. There is no joy greater than having your children grow up to become amazing adults. (Ask your mother... I bet she can tell you exactly how wonderful that feels.)Susan Flett Swiderskihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09425315552148200073noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1165773290907101242.post-72264948398918008632017-03-27T10:24:39.574+01:002017-03-27T10:24:39.574+01:00Hmm, I think there are rubbish parents, they are t...Hmm, I think there are rubbish parents, they are those that teach their children to use their elbows (and all the other possible means) to get what they want.<br />Your observations are very interesting. The 4x4 drivers sound even more amusing in London than in an Italian village on the hills... where I started my parenting years.Sara - Villa Emiliahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17402655388283396110noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1165773290907101242.post-7788828841756447472017-03-27T10:03:07.181+01:002017-03-27T10:03:07.181+01:00Oh, my goodness, I never would have thought of Lon...Oh, my goodness, I never would have thought of Londoners as having a 'twang'. Texans have a 'twang'. But everyone has an opinion. <br /><br />A sister of mine was a parent in London once upon a time. Apparently there was a way of doing it. Quality parenting and non-quality parenting, to be very blunt. It all left me rather mystified.Mariahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09977676093756206414noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1165773290907101242.post-21527296278699426832017-03-27T09:36:08.302+01:002017-03-27T09:36:08.302+01:00Hi ACIL - I can believe your thoughts ... not bein...Hi ACIL - I can believe your thoughts ... not being a parent though, I've never experienced the challenge of kids - a rewarding challenge. We all need to learn to accept people for who they are and help them if we can, or for our own family - give them something they perhaps won't get at home ... eg a visit to an art gallery, or museum ... a day out etc ... London is a wonderful mix of values ... but we somehow need to help others understand that there are others too who live in a different world - we are all human and should be together, helping each other and sharing life. I now do try and look beyond the person as so many have troubling lives and difficult challenges to live with ... take care and I'm sure your kids will be fine and will make the right decisions ... love is all ...cheers HilaryHilary Melton-Butcherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17596532480645510678noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1165773290907101242.post-11053875584695970032017-03-27T02:07:08.795+01:002017-03-27T02:07:08.795+01:00I'd enjoy your thoughts and observations, as a...I'd enjoy your thoughts and observations, as always. I'm not a parent, so I really can't comment about the challenges of having a child. But as I grow older, I look back at how my parents struggled to make me and my three siblings happy. I wish they were here now so I could thank them. Take care! :)Rob Khttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04741955202727936194noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1165773290907101242.post-71356338774759804312017-03-26T22:00:21.534+01:002017-03-26T22:00:21.534+01:00Snobbery is surely the bane of the English. For so...Snobbery is surely the bane of the English. For some reason I used to think it had disappeared but it has just taken a different form. I wonder if it is the same in other countries - I don't have enough experience to know. Many of the looked-down-upon parents probably feel they are as good as, if not better than those who criticise them. And what's more, they probably are, when it comes to things that matter. Jenny Woolfhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16881781466502273314noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1165773290907101242.post-66203823800337722702017-03-26T20:37:42.525+01:002017-03-26T20:37:42.525+01:00This post could not have been written by someone w...This post could not have been written by someone who has experienced severe physical, mental or sexual abuse.<br />I could never have written this - I'm glad you could. It's a window into a "normal", not perfect world.livhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00091094639074377780noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1165773290907101242.post-34581049057115832292017-03-26T13:34:08.189+01:002017-03-26T13:34:08.189+01:00Parenting is there for a lifetime. Each person can...Parenting is there for a lifetime. Each person can parent in their own way, as long as the kids are happy and healthy, power to them. But yeah, the stupid parents or far worse, need to be fixed.Pat Hatthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07745293224202430152noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1165773290907101242.post-74336639349960289712017-03-26T13:02:09.460+01:002017-03-26T13:02:09.460+01:00Hello Cuban.First.What a nice post today.I enjoyed...Hello Cuban.First.What a nice post today.I enjoyed it very much.Also the good comments replied.I do agree with Fram." came to believe that no matter how good or how bad a parent might be, just plain dumb luck is part of the equation when raising children and there is <br />no way for a parent to manage/control it"<br /><br />As a nurse i see all kind of stuff.And sometimes we see thing we dont like.So there is a huge space for what we should do..as aways we try to make the surroundings goodfor the parents and children if we see something wrong..(childabuse)Its very difficult.<br /><br />For me.Personally.I have been alone with my child always.I find it as the best task i have ever been into.It gives me such happiness I thought never could be.I wish everyone could have it as well.Wish for you a long happy easter with wife and family, Cuban.Thanx for nice reply on my blog.<br /><br />Anita Anitahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16296393166114580709noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1165773290907101242.post-71960442127375864002017-03-26T10:14:47.150+01:002017-03-26T10:14:47.150+01:00Parenting is certainly challenging, also never-end...Parenting is certainly challenging, also never-ending. My son is 54 and I still feel required to teach him things. Valeriehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12099030819314552958noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1165773290907101242.post-87224889917095249742017-03-26T09:36:03.353+01:002017-03-26T09:36:03.353+01:00In my previous life (that's how it feels now, ...In my previous life (that's how it feels now, those years in Child Protection) we thought in terms of 'good-enough parenting'. There's no 'one size fits all' but parents need to be able to meet children's basic needs for safety, food, and someone to love.<br /><br />And some simply couldn't, and we had to find somewhere safe for the children to be. The challenge, then, was to help parents to understand that, simply because (often for complex reasons) they couldn't parent their children didn't mean they were bad people. We all have things we're crap at. (Having said that, I struggled to be non-judgemental about a man who held his toddler down to photograph her genitals so he could sell the pictures online.)JOhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03127111575563904349noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1165773290907101242.post-40931427669372640882017-03-26T04:29:54.913+01:002017-03-26T04:29:54.913+01:00Never judge a book by its cover, that certainly ap...Never judge a book by its cover, that certainly applies to people too.<br /><br />I'm guessing you've been a better than average parent, based on what I know about you, via your blog. <br /><br />I never had any kids but IMO parenting well, is a real gift. And also, a work in progress.Geraldine https://www.blogger.com/profile/07410019941984295767noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1165773290907101242.post-66189114775889984742017-03-26T03:33:05.093+01:002017-03-26T03:33:05.093+01:00My view of parenting is a bit warped from having w...My view of parenting is a bit warped from having worked in a prison system for a dozen years and often closely with inmates (I still use that word) who committed literally every crime there is to commit, usually under the influence of liquor or drugs. From that experience, I came to believe that no matter how good or how bad a parent might be, just plain dumb luck is part of the equation when raising children and there is no way for a parent to manage/control it.<br /><br />Excellent post, CiL ....Fram Actualhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01540773153894050197noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1165773290907101242.post-5640770637065995822017-03-25T22:31:13.816+00:002017-03-25T22:31:13.816+00:00Parenting is not only difficult but endless. Our s...Parenting is not only difficult but endless. Our son is still a challenge and he's 36.stephen Hayeshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17659054447637207734noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1165773290907101242.post-76400244692321623132017-03-25T21:56:07.208+00:002017-03-25T21:56:07.208+00:00Being a mother was the only aspiration I kept as I...Being a mother was the only aspiration I kept as I grew up. I love each of my children fiercely. Most of the time they love me back. As you said it is a hard job to be a parent. You work to instill the values you want them to have. You try to see that they are not harmed. You provide the best education possible. You hope for them to be happy in life. And all the while you are preparing to let them go. That is the hardest part. The rebellions of teenagers are simply them experimenting with being adult even when they are not ready yet. The tightropes parents balance are sometimes difficult but they are so worth the outcome.Emma Springfieldhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10543689047463574012noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1165773290907101242.post-57626497298650968342017-03-25T20:49:05.179+00:002017-03-25T20:49:05.179+00:00I have never been a parent but I know that raising...I have never been a parent but I know that raising children is one of the most difficult, and hopefully rewarding experiences in life.Lindahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12692170857496442623noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1165773290907101242.post-59651642539855223242017-03-25T20:24:31.018+00:002017-03-25T20:24:31.018+00:00I've seen drug-addicted parents who did horrib...I've seen drug-addicted parents who did horrible things to their kids. They were not working class or the working poor, either.ehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11376645220662546020noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1165773290907101242.post-27270252954353891762017-03-25T19:38:19.076+00:002017-03-25T19:38:19.076+00:00As a non-parent it has always stuck me as very cha...As a non-parent it has always stuck me as very challenging indeed. And never ending. Elephant's Childhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06650565833097914052noreply@blogger.com